If tripling the social schedule doesn’t cause enough pressure, then the necessity of smiling while experiencing even more than the usual daily frustrations surely will.
Why Some Seniors and Others Don’t Feel Happy on Every December Day
Ever notice the tinsel on Christmas trees? It alternates between dull and shiny phases. It would be hard to really notice the shine if there weren’t moments and spaces without it to provide contrast. A major roadblock to letting the tinsel of Christmas happiness shine during the Yuletide is the myth that it must shine all the time.
Because it’s December people suddenly stop allowing the much-needed full range of human emotion, insisting that joy and happiness are all that’s allowed this month. No wonder depression increases with the season.
Older adults and others sometimes forget that they are making choices by what they do, and they don’t have to endure a self-imposed rule of too much rushing and excessive cheeriness, which can easily turn artificial.
Dealing With Stress and Negative Feelings During the Christmas Season
Most seniors and boomers have lived long enough to realize that pets can sense stress in their owners. By the same token, so can kids, and even some older friends. This may be why the tension seems to multiply on a hard day during the winter holidays. Negative feelings spread to a person’s friends and family.
This gunny-sacking of negative feelings can end up bursting and casting a shadow on a senior person’s fun as well as the self-image. Guilt sets in because the person is not able to be happy all the time, as the seasonal myth hints people should.
Seniors May Suffer From Too Much Excitement During the Holidays
Even the excitement and happiness takes a toll on people of all ages. Relief and calmness are often called for, along with acceptance of the possibility of disappointments. These are part and parcel of the season’s happenings, as they are a natural part of life the rest of the year. The accompanying tension brings behavior and feelings that make perceptive people wonder if all this Yule Gruel is worth the effort.
Discussing these occasions with trusted friends or family can help reduce guilt and tension and prepares the elderly to cope with such times. Perhaps attempting too much happiness in such a short time can cloud the perception of what happiness really is.
Seniors and Others Managing Time During Christmas Season
A step in the right direction would be to let the tinsel of feelings have freedom of movement during winter holiday months just like the rest of the year. Try saying no without guilt to the events which bring too much pressure.
Budget time commitments to avoid dragging family members around at the expense of eating, resting or customary closeness. In addition, alternate exciting and calming activities so excessive tension doesn’t build up.
Older adults and others will know they’ve wrestled with the “Spirit of Christmas Too Fast” and won: